20 Huge Mistakes Guys Are Making On Tinder

Pout Selfie

Single people love Tinder; the simple, yet superficial dating app that kills time, entertains and allows you to date at a fast pace. The concept is simple; feast your eyes upon a catalogue of potential suitors; swipe right if they’re hot, swipe left if they’re not and if the attraction is mutual you can chat. If you’re a guy on Tinder and your match rate is low – you’re probably wondering what’s wrong with you? Before you assume it’s your face, fear not, you’re probably just making one of the following mistakes that’s prompting the lethal left swipe. I asked some of my guy mates to pose and help demonstrate 20 big Tinder mistakes – enjoy!

 

1) Skip the funny captions on your photos

If you enhance your photo with captions like: ‘sexy match of the day’ or ‘the one to pick’, this shouts out ‘desperate’ more than anything else. It’s hardly cryptic and instead of thinking ‘what a catch’, we’ll just be wondering why you went to all that effort.

Cheesy captions on Tinder photos

 

2) The ‘Catch Of The Day’ fish shots don’t impress us

Yes we know you’re proud of the gigantic halibut you caught last summer – but let’s face it, a sloppy fish isn’t exactly the definition of sexy. Tinder isn’t the place to flaunt it. The catch of the day might impress the guys, but it’s not going to get the girl.'Catch of the day' fish shot on Tinder

 

3) If you’re holding a baby, we’ll assume it’s yours

We understand your angle - ‘girls dig babies, this will look cute’, but unfortunately if you’re holding a baby we’ll assume it’s yours, not your niece/nephew or your friend’s baby. So ditch the baby shots or risk the left swipe!

Photo with a baby on tinder

 

4) A photo with a token hot girl isn’t going to make us think ‘babe magnet’

Just because you’re pictured with a hot girl, we’re not automatically going to think: ‘he must be God’s gift to women’. Also, how are we supposed to know that it’s your sister/friend in the photo? We’ll probably assume it’s your girlfriend, or if she’s hot, we’ll at least expect you to have tried it on with her.

Photo with a hot girl on Tinder

 

5)Topless shots don’t impress

What happened to a bit of good old fashioned mystery? If you think we’re going to see your rippling abs and think: ‘amazing body, I must date him NOW,’ you’re wrong. Instead, these are the thoughts that will go through a girl’s head: ‘vain, egotistic, probably body obsessed, boring, hasn’t got a life outside the gym, will judge me for eating a kebab.’

Topless shot on Tinder

 

6) Don’t even think of photographing any other body parts

No. Just don’t go there.

Funny banana photo on Tinder

 

7) If you’ve got sunglasses on in EVERY photo, we’ll worry you’re hiding crazy eyes

You might look hot in shades, but  if you’re got them on in EVERY single photo, we’ll start to wonder what you’re hiding underneath. In summary: don’t hide, show us your eyes!

Sunglasses shot on Tinder

 

8) We don’t want to be pen-pals

If we’ve been talking to you for a while (several days, not several minutes) we’ll probably be open to the suggestion of a date, so get a move on, we don’t want endless months of small talk.

Penpal Tinder photo

 

9) Zoolander style pouting shots are a no-go

You’ve been practising this for a while…your chin is lowered, your head is tilted to the side and you’re channelling David Beckham. A subtle pout – ‘maybe she’ll think I’m a part-time model.’ Black and white filter – sorted. Sorry boys, but the pouting shots do nothing more than make us cringe.

Pout selfie on Tinder

10) You may be on there for a casual fling but don’t assume every girl is too

Don’t immediately assume Tinder is just for casual hook ups. Many girls will seriously want to date you. So forget the dodgy pick-up lines and the obvious attempts to have a meaningless fling.

Tinder Casual Fling

 

11) Bad taglines can be a deal breaker

You might think taglines are going to ‘seal the deal’ but they can actually be detrimental. Don’t write your full life story (a bit of mystery is good), otherwise we’ll assume your blurb is a copy and paste job from every other dating site you’re on. If you give your mobile number/twitter handle/social media details – we’ll wonder why you’re not afraid of stalkers? As for the ‘Tinderella jokes’ – we’ve heard it all before. So if you must have a tagline – keep it brief and interesting.

Bad tag lines on Tinder

 

12) Be careful of your background in the photos

A toilet should never be the backdrop of your profile picture. If you’re taking a bedroom shot, at least tidy up – we don’t want to see tomorrow washing strewn all over the floor or messy bed sheets.

Messy bedroom Tinder shot

 

13) If you only post group photos, we’ll assume you’re the ugly guy

Harsh but true. You may think you’re looking popular with ‘the lads’ but we’ll just be wondering which one you are and why you decided against having any solo shots. It’s a big effort to try to figure out which guy you are, so we’ll probably just swipe left and move on. In short, don’t try to trick us into thinking you’re your hot mate. (Ps. To my guy mates - I just wanted to confirm none of you are the ugly one in the photo below).

Friends shot Tinder

 

14) If we forget to reply, a ‘hi’ is ok, bombarding us with messages is not

If we accidentally ignore you, don’t go all crazy on us and bombard us with messages; we’re probably just busy or having a little Tinder break, if we’re interested, we’ll get back in due course.

Bombarding with messages on Tinder

 

15) Don’t just have all side profile/arty shots

If we can’t see the front of your face, we’ll wonder what you’re hiding! Be a bit more adventurous and let us see the full picture rather than an mysterious arty shot.

Arty shot on Tinder

 

16) Actor headshots can be a bit cringeworthy

Yes, we know you’re trying to impress us with the fact that you starred as an extra in a movie that went straight to DVD in 2006. The formal headshots aren’t necessary, just show us the real you…having fun!

Actor Headshot on Tinder

 

17) The sports car photos need to go

Wondering why you keep dating gold diggers? Tinder is about your face, not your number plate. We don’t care about the car you drive. The worst is when there are no pictures of you, just the car.

Tinder Sports Car

 

18) Stop taking bad selfies

If you must take a selfie – avoid the mirror shot where you’re blocking your face with your phone in the reflection! What’s the point of a photo like this? Also, skip the arm behind the head, in the bed shot. We’re not going to think ‘I wish I was in that bed too’, we’re going to find you a little bit creepy.

Bad selfie on Tinder

 

19) Ditch the ‘that’s me in the distance’ shots

‘Errr nice mountain…’ One tip: keep the camera close! We want to get a good look at you, so if you’re a tiny dot in the distance, how are we going to tell if we fancy you?

Mountain shot Tinder

 

20) Don’t pose with a weapon

Seriously – you may assume holding a machine gun or a samurai sword makes you look manly, but to us, this ticks the ‘terrifying’ box and we’ll worry that you’re a bit of a psycho!

Weapon Pose Tinder

 

So there you have it – 20 mistakes you may have been making on Tinder. (Many thanks to my guy pals for being such good sports). Now you understand how girls think, it’s time to do something about it! So delete the awkward bathroom mirror selfie and the photo with your brother’s baby, and you’ll be well on the way to those magical right swipes.

Are there any other things that should be on the list? Comment below if you’d like to see a follow-up with the girls’ version of this article and let me know what the ladies are doing wrong…

 

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'20 Huge Mistakes Guys Are Making On Tinder' have 13 comments

  1. September 15, 2014 @ 9:48 pm Helen

    Ha ha ha ha ha ha! Love it! I sat with my friend looking at Tinder the other day. So many men with so many wrong ideas about what women want or find attractive! Spot on. :)

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    • September 15, 2014 @ 10:46 pm Alicia

      Haha Thank you Helen! Glad you enjoyed it! I’ve never understood why guys choose photos like the ‘catch of the day’ sloppy fish shot. It will be interesting to hear what guys think women are doing wrong ;)

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  2. September 15, 2014 @ 10:57 pm Bobs

    Great piece this!!! Haha…

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    • September 16, 2014 @ 1:39 am Alicia

      Thanks! I couldn’t have done it without the outstanding models ;)

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      • October 3, 2014 @ 7:40 pm JD

        What are the worst mistakes girls make then?!?!! Really funny article (-:

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        • October 6, 2014 @ 4:10 pm Alicia

          Thanks JD! Glad you found it entertaining!

          Watch this space…the girls’ article is in the planning stages…

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    • February 25, 2016 @ 11:37 am Adam

      Why are these articles always geared towards what men are doing wrong?
      - Pouting in shots
      - Group shots with mates
      - Arty pictures
      - Distant shots

      Girls do all of these as well, the pouting especially. Not to mention the ‘i hardly ever swipe right so if i do you’re a lucky boy’ arrogant message that so many girls put up there.

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  4. March 19, 2015 @ 6:17 am Capetown

    Its funny the relationship women have about guys bodies. Especially if they are very fit. Most guys who don’t look after themselves put other guys down too. You tend to find the confident people, male or female celebrate and respect a good bod. The others male and female, tend to label it as douchey. Probably because they are insecure. And yeah if your flexing like a steroid body builder thats obviously lame. But i get hassle just for having my top off in a holiday pic. It appears having a six pack is somehow discomforting for people see. I don’t get it at all. Despite not wearing a top round most of the hot countries through my travels i dare not post my pics for fear that people will ridicule me. Oh the irony. Ridiculing the person who looks after themselves. Go figure!

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    • April 13, 2015 @ 11:57 pm Alicia

      Very interesting points indeed! Thanks for taking the time to comment and share your views.
      I think when it comes to Tinder, a lot of women automatically assume the topless shots equate to arrogance and vanity (especially the flexing body builder-esque shots, like you pointed out)…and besides, keeping a bit of mystery is always nice rather than the ‘instant reveal’. The same goes for a woman’s photos on Tinder I’m guessing.

      However…I can also see your view when it comes to generally posting holiday photos online. Being in good shape is a positive and you shouldn’t have to feel people will ridicule you for that if you post photos. Jealousy and insecurity? Yes perhaps that’s it. If you find that equally fit people are giving you praise but you’re receiving negativity from others, it’s probably their own self-comparison and insecurity that’s the root of this. Unfortunately not everyone goes by the ‘if you’ve got it flaunt it’ mentality and people are quick to label. Best to ignore those who criticise…I’m sure you’ve got an equal number of people sending a virtual high five your way :)

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      • May 15, 2015 @ 5:43 pm Steve

        I read your article and I’d have to say it makes sense. In fact, it’s common sense to a guy who isn’t a douche or a player looking for hookups. So, I have never done any of those things on Tinder yet I still get ZERO matches. Scratch that. I get plenty of offers from prostitutes but no REAL matches. Clearly, you don’t have a secret formula for the app. Maybe women are a bit more shallow than you believe in the looks dept.

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        • June 1, 2015 @ 12:00 am Alicia

          Hi there, thanks for your comment, glad the article makes sense. I hear that tinder is become over-saturated with fake profiles when guys go on there. Sorry you haven’t had much luck. I’m sure if these women met you in real life it would be a different story.

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  5. June 1, 2015 @ 12:02 am Alicia

    Hi Lynn! Thanks for the compliment – glad you loved it! Sports logo pics – another great one! Totally agree…

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